Can I get transactions to update in Quickbooks self-employed without asking my busy employer to login once a month just to indicate it's him?

I'll answer your query about updating your transactions in QuicKBooks Self-employed (QBSE),Debbi.

To keep your banking records up-to-date, kindly request that your employer logs in each month to update transactions.

Once everything is good, you can categorize your transactions to ensure your financial records are correct.

I added this article if you need a reference about the different Schedule C categories in QuickBooks Self-Employed: Schedule C and expense categories in QuickBooks Self-Employed.

If you happen to come across any difficulties while recording your entries, fill me in with the details and I'll help you fix them. Let me know and I'll gladly lend a hand.